Any and all sexual language from the pulpit should be used in the same way and for the same purpose that God uses it: to stimulate our holiness, not our hormones. 

As you keep that in mind, your new sermons will be on solid ground, not thin ice!     

6.  Use emotional words to draw out sexual memories.

Now that you are beginning to formulate a new preaching pattern about sex, what types of words shall you use? How shall you preach? What’s the next step? I want to teach you something that revolutionized my preaching and counseling . . .

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People have EXTREMELY good memories whenever their sexuality is violated. Chemically and emotionally, these memories are deeply implanted in their minds. Sometimes their pain is SO intense that they will try to forget it or even create alternate worlds to live in so that they won’t have to deal with the horror of it all.

Again, a slight touch of a fresh wound is all that it takes to get someone’s attention. 

Target the emotional effects, not the sexual activities, that have taken place.  Study a concordance, commentary, or lexicon to discover how that particular Hebrew or Greek word that God used to describe that painful emotion or sexual action is used elsewhere in Scripture and in other non-biblical texts. It’s definitely worth the work as you understand the depth of that emotion from your study! Once you understand the reasons for and repercussions resulting from rape, sexual molestation, homosexuality, promiscuity, pornography and abortion – you’ll see preaching opportunities springing up from so many non-sexual topics or texts!

Here are emotional phrases I’ve found helpful in drawing out sexual pain or sin:

- No matter what someone has done to you or what you’ve done to them . . .

- No matter what difficult, painful, physical, or sexual experience you have had . . .

- No matter what you struggle with, what habits you have, who your master is . . .

- No matter what pain or injustice you’ve suffered that you did not deserve . . .

- No matter how angry, dirty, or guilty you now feel now because of what you have done to someone or because of what someone has sadly done to you . . .

“JESUS understands your feelings of shame, anger, pain, filth, hurt, loss, betrayal, and humiliation. You are not alone. He gives you the comfort or strength that you need to make you whole again, regardless of your past.”

Sexually wounded or addicted people (regardless of which ever sexual topic) all share those common emotions that Jesus did as He became sin for us on the cross.

A great place for you to start is to carefully study the emotional effects that Jesus experienced from Isaiah 53, Hebrews 4, and while He suffered on the cross.  The more I study of Jesus, the more I know that He totally understands the people that have experienced the worst injustices, violations, physical and sexual humiliations. I also know that He can release sexually addicted people from ANY deep attraction or habit.  In my preaching and counseling, I encourage people to lay down all of their sexual sin — or pain — at the cross of Jesus, who can bring healing like none other.